update :- using audacity, I changed my background menu music to wav, from the default mpa format. For all the photo gallery slideshow music, I also changed it from mp3 to wav. It made no difference
The dvd audio in general remains too much for the speakers of my tv and monitor on a medium volume level- as you could still hear the constant "scratchiness" or the high pitched "whine" in certain areas of the music when it got too loud for the speakers to play clearly on both. On a standard tv, compared to the average tv channel, the dvd output is simply too loud. I listened again, but with my headphones, to the exact same dvd output-no scratchiness or whine, but... the volume almost blows your head off on a monitor at 35%! PS- it was "elvis-jailhouse rock" in the test, so nothing arguably "too heavy" or "too loud"!
There was a noticable increase in volume when comparing the original music to the outputted dvd music, so its either an automatic on purpose volume normalisation feature in the software that im not told about in its final process, or something that happens in the conversion to cause the output to be louder anyway (or both?), but Id need a developer from moviefactory to tell me which is true.
I tried three further tests >>
1 - lowering the volume of a slideshow (same mp3-using audacity and its normalisation feature) and outputting as mp3.
2 - lowering the volume of a slideshow (same mp3-using audacity to lower) and outputting as wav.
3 - lowering the volume of default menu music (mpa format-so after lowering volume in audacity, I output as wav).
Result >> all three tests work! In audacity, for wav and mp3, the output format was set to 44100Hz, 32-bit float. the volume on all music in the final dvd is no longer too loud to cause my tv to go overboard!

The only problem I have now is in getting all the music I have added to moviefactory to be roughly 'on the same level' in my final dvd. In audacity I used "effect > normalisation" at roughly -10 dB to lower the volume. Unfortunatedly there is only a "normalisation" feature in factory for my added videos, and nothing to lower their volume instead. im not really sure what good software could be recommended in lowering volume levels of any added videos, but without any changes video audio volume levels are no where near as high as the menu and gallery music.
PS does anyone know of any software that can lower volume levels like audacity to my audio, but do it as one process to multiple files? I dont fancy having to lower the volume of each individual track seperately, so being able to add "folders" or their contents at once would be great, although im arguably just being lazy

thanks!